Welcome to The (Not) Drinking Diary Series! I’ll be chatting to people on alcohol and on life; about their sobriety, mindful drinking and/or alcohol free period.
I first met Shakira over Instagram. She’s a fellow London dweller, an inspiration and super stylish to boot. She is refreshingly honest in her answers and I learnt a lot from reading them. Read on for more of her story & enjoy!
Name: Shakira Elliott
Location: London, UK
1.What led you to think differently about drinking?
I was working within an industry where partying was quite frequent.. very quickly it escalated into drinking every night. I started to blackout and not remember anything. I tried again and again to limit my alcohol intake and it just didn’t happen. I eventually realised limiting wasn’t going to work for me and I needed to be abstinent.
2.How would you describe your relationship with alcohol now?
None! I have more of a fear of drinking again than not drinking again. Life is amazing without it. Ditching drink has improved my health, relationships, clarity and focus.
3.What’s been the biggest challenge you’ve faced since your approach to alcohol shifted?
Feelings of calm have been a change for me. Adjusting to a new routine and a new life.
4.What lessons have you learnt about life (and yourself) since your relationship with alcohol has changed?
There is a big difference between fun and happiness. Happiness comes from within and not from any external things. I have learnt to manage my time better and to only associate myself with the happy and fortunate.
5. How do you start your day? Do you have a morning routine?
Coffee, hot shower, breakfast and 5/10min meditation. Grateful to be waking up hangover free.
6. Do you have any rituals you always make time for?
Self care, self love and being kind to myself. It’s the most important thing to have a good relationship with yourself.
7. What’s your favourite thing to do (hangover free) at the weekend?
Every weekend is different, I have so much more time to enjoy it these days. Trying out new places to eat, horse riding, water skiing, hosting parties, spending quality time with my friends… (usually going on spontaneous adventures!) and I’ve started dating again.
8. When it comes to your own personal development, what is one thing that you’re working on or learning right now?
Studying business books, business is my passion. Learning as many new skills as possible so that I can deliver them to a business or future collaborations. I have started meditation and I would like to learn how to read a book in a week!
9. What is the one thing you’re obsessed with at the moment that’s making your life better?
Always improving my self awareness and the ability to continuously grow. I am also food obsessed and on a mission to try every new mocktail in London.
10. And finally, thinking differently about alcohol can be challenging and isolating, is there any advice you turned to or do you have any words of wisdom for people reading this?
There is a difference between and fun and happiness. The thing about new beginnings is they require something else to end and nothing will change unless you do. Let go of anything you think will bring you happiness because you already have everything you need right now.